Abahungu bake bari mu rujijo gato barabaza bati: Kuki buri gihe ashaka kuryamana n'umukunzi we, ati "Honey, uzimye itara"?Niba avuze ati “Sinshaka kuzimya amatara”, azahita agenda hanyuma ahite yinjira mu rupfu: 1… 2… Noneho, uyu munsi ndakubwira impamvu abakobwa benshi bazimya amatara iyo bakoze imibonano mpuzabitsina.
1. Kuki abakobwa bazimya amatara mugihe bakora imibonano mpuzabitsina?
Kubera ko abakobwa bafite isoni, abakobwa muri rusange bafite isoni.Kubwibyo, ibidukikije byijimye nyuma yo kuzimya amatara byatumaga bumva bafite umutekano kandi bikagabanya ipfunwe no guhangayika.Byongeye kandi, abagore bahitamo gushishikara kurusha abagabo.Ikirere cyijimye cyemerera abantu kwibanda cyane kuri caressing, kandi abakobwa barashobora kubyinjiramo byihuse.
2. Ntabwo yizeye ishusho ye
Inzobere mu mibonano mpuzabitsina y'Abanyamerika, Cindy Moston yagize ati: Nubwo babanye n’indi myaka yabo ikomeye mu myaka myinshi, abagore baracyahangayikishijwe no kubura igikundiro, nkimiterere yumubiri wabo, uruhu, ndetse n’imitsi mu maso.Mugihe cyimibonano mpuzabitsina, bombi ni inyangamugayo, kandi umukobwa ashobora kuba afite impungenge nkeya: Isura yanjye nini cyane?Igihanga cyanjye kinini kiracyahari?
Nk’uko ubushakashatsi bwabigaragaje: Niba umugore adahangayikishijwe cyane n’imiterere ye, afite amahirwe arenga 80% yo kugera ku mibonano mpuzabitsina mu gihe cyimibonano mpuzabitsina;ariko 42% byabagore gusa bahora bahangayikishijwe numubare wabo.
Muyandi magambo, mugihe cyo gukora urukundo, abagore bazatakaza ikizere kubera imiterere yumubiri wabo, bityo ntibazashobora kwishimira imibonano mpuzabitsina n'umutima wabo wose kandi bagere kubyo bagamije.Kubwibyo, kuzimya amatara nuburyo bwo kugabanya amaganya.
3. Yasohoye inzozi ze
Nkumukunzi, ugomba kumenya neza uko ibitekerezo byumukobwa ari binini.Niba udasubije, bivuze ko uyu mugore yahagaritse ukuboko kandi ijwi rirakabije.Azanyura mu mbuto zose za sesame zishaje hamwe na milleti yaboze, arangije ageze ku mwanzuro: Ntukinkunda!
Kubwibyo, abakobwa bazimya amatara mugihe cyimibonano mpuzabitsina nabo birashoboka ko bakora imibonano mpuzabitsina.Ubu yari ku mucanga, mu ishuri, mu ishyamba, kandi mu bitekerezo bye yahinduka umugabo muremure, mwiza.
Iyi sura, akabuto gato, iyi mboro, ntishobora gucana urumuri nkuko byari byitezwe.Ariko ntacyo bitwaye, nyuma yo kuzimya amatara, azabitekereza wenyine.Muri make, ibitekerezo nkibi bizatuma abakobwa barushaho gushimishwa, bityo bitezimbere ingaruka zimibonano mpuzabitsina.
Igihe cyo kohereza: Ukuboza-02-2023
